Have you ever silenced a desire before it even formed, whispering to yourself, “I should just be grateful”?
You looked around at what you had; family, a job, a roof over your head and still felt something stirring quietly inside you.

A longing.

A hunger.

A whisper for more.

Not more stuff, but more fulfillment. More truth. More you. And almost immediately, guilt crept in like a shadow.
Because who are you to want more, right?
Other people have it worse.
Shouldn’t I just be thankful for what I have?

Sound familiar?

You might be sitting in a life that looks “fine” on the outside; stable job, people who love you, routines that keep everything moving. But inside, something’s stirring. A whisper that says, “This isn’t it.” That whisper is not selfish. That ache is not greed. That desire for more? It’s sacred.

And if no one has ever told you this, let me be the first: You’re allowed to listen to it.

We’re taught to be content. To be grateful. And gratitude is beautiful. But somewhere along the way, gratitude started to get twisted into guilt. We started using it like a muzzle, something to silence the part of us that wanted more.

Be thankful for what you have, they say.
Don’t ask for too much.
Don’t rock the boat.

So we shrink ourselves into boxes. We swallow our longings. We tell ourselves that wanting more must mean we’re being ungrateful. But what if that’s not true? What if the craving for something deeper, richer, more fulfilling is the most honest thing about you right now?

Wanting more doesn’t mean you’re throwing away your blessings. It means you’re growing. It means the version of life that once fit you… no longer does. It means you’re ready to evolve. And that’s worth celebrating.

When you find yourself daydreaming about a different kind of life, or sitting in a room that feels too small for who you’re becoming. You entertain a thought, a hope, a possibility and almost immediately, the guilt creeps in.

You should be happy.
You already have so much.
Don’t be ungrateful.

That guilt convinces us to stay small. To silence the whisper. But guilt is a cage. And your desires? They’re the beginning of your truth.

You can be deeply grateful and still want change. You can hold appreciation for what is and reach for what could be. You are not betraying your blessings when you outgrow them, you’re honoring your becoming.

If you were raised to believe that good women don’t ask for more, that wanting more makes you greedy, selfish, or ungrateful, you’re not alone.

You became the woman who settled quietly.
The one who said, “This is enough,” even as her soul whispered, “But is it?”

You’re not broken for wanting more. You’re not selfish for longing for something that makes you feel alive. You are simply waking up. And I hope you never go back to sleep.

Wanting more isn’t always about money or titles or things. Sometimes, it’s wanting to feel seen in your marriage. Wanting deeper connection in your friendships. Wanting more time to yourself without guilt. More peace. More purpose. More softness.

It’s about shedding the layers of “should” so you can finally ask: What do I actually want?

And when you do, real transformation begins.

It might look like:

✨ Saying no, even when it makes you uncomfortable.
✨ Letting go of relationships that only drain you.
✨ Asking for space and time to reconnect with yourself.
✨ Dreaming out loud, even if no one claps at first.
✨ Taking risks that feel aligned, even if no one else understands.

So, What Now

If you’ve been living in the tension between contentment and longing, you don’t have to choose between them. You can honor both. Gratitude and desire can co-exist. One doesn’t cancel out the other.

Let this be the moment you stop apologizing for wanting more. Let this be the moment you believe it’s okay to outgrow what once felt right. Let this be the moment you say, “I deserve a life that fits the woman I’m becoming.”

You don’t have to justify your hunger for wholeness. You don’t need permission to build a life that sets your soul on fire. This is your life. You’re allowed to want it to feel like home.

You are not too much.
You are not behind.
You are not ungrateful.

You are awakening.

With you always,

Lydiah.