I know you want love that feels safe.
Love that wraps around your heart without asking you to shrink.
Love that stays — not because you’re perfect, but because it sees you, truly.

Maybe you’ve made lists, recited affirmations, prayed or journaled about the kind of relationship you want.
And still… love seems to slip through your fingers.

It’s enough to make you wonder:
“Is something wrong with me?”

But let me stop you right there.

Wanting love is human. But it’s not enough.

I see this pattern with so many women.
We’ve been taught to want love. To wait, to wish, to pray harder.

But wanting love isn’t the same as being ready for it.

Because here’s the raw truth:
You don’t manifest love by wanting it.
You manifest it by becoming it.

You attract what you embody

Think of it like this.
You can plant a sign that says “Butterflies Welcome!” — but if your garden has no flowers, no colors, no sweet nectar, the butterflies won’t come.

Love is the same.

If deep down you still believe:

• You have to overgive to be chosen
  
• You must tolerate disrespect to not end up alone
  
• Your needs are “too much”
  
• Your worth depends on someone else picking you
  

…then your energy carries that.
Your nervous system carries that.
And the kind of love you attract will match it.

 I learned this the hard way

There was a time I thought love had to be earned.
So I overdid it. I overgave. I made myself smaller just to be chosen.
I stayed in places where my heart was starving, hoping that one day they’d see my worth —
But all it did was leave me empty, anxious, and disconnected from myself.

I thought if I just tried harder, proved myself more, loved deeper — maybe then love would stay.
But it didn’t. And neither did the parts of me I was losing in the process.

The real shift came when I stopped looking outward and turned inward.
When I started treating myself the way I longed for someone else to treat me —
with tenderness, honesty, care, and boundaries.

That’s when everything changed.
That’s when I attracted the kind of love that didn’t require me to perform.
The kind of love that felt safe, steady, and true.
Not because I chased it…
But because I became it.

So what does becoming love actually look like?

It’s not about being “high value” so someone else finally chooses you.
It’s about being so anchored in your own worth that you stop performing.

It’s:

• Listening to your needs — and honoring them.
  
• Setting boundaries — and keeping them.
  
• Softening your body out of survival mode, so you stop confusing anxiety for chemistry.
  
• Learning to regulate your nervous system, so love doesn’t feel like a battlefield.
  

When you become love, you don’t chase.
You don’t cling.
You don’t settle.

You attract.
Not because of magic words or forcing someone to show up, but because your very energy shifts.

 If this is stirring something in you…

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It’s where I guide you to heal your patterns, reclaim your worth, and create the kind of love that feels like home, starting with yourself.

You don’t have to keep surviving love.
You can choose differently.
And you don’t have to do it alone.

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With all my heart,
Lydia 💛