There’s nothing confusing about people’s behavior, especially bad behavior. What’s truly confusing is our inability to accept their actions for what they are. We often find ourselves tied in knots, overthinking and justifying, trying to decipher motives or search for hidden meanings when, in reality, the truth is often plain and simple.

People show us who they are through their actions – please believe them.

I know this isn’t always easy. It’s human nature to want to give others the benefit of the doubt, to hope that what they say is more reflective of their intentions than what they do. But here’s the hard truth: actions speak louder than words. They always have, and they always will.

So why do we complicate things?

How many times have you replayed someone’s words or actions in your mind, searching for hidden meanings? How often have you justified someone’s poor treatment of you, telling yourself, “They didn’t mean it that way,” or “They’re just going through a rough time”? or “They will change.”

Please stop the Emotional Gymnastics you put yourself through!

I’ve been there. As a recovering people pleaser, I spent years auditioning to be loved, liked, and invited. I ignored the actions that told me otherwise and clung to the hope that I could earn the affection or validation I so desperately wanted. I made excuses for behavior that didn’t deserve my understanding.

But here’s the truth I’ve learned the hard way: clarity begins the moment you decide to see things as they are, not as you wish them to be.

Can This Be Your Mantra This Year?

“Stop justifying, stop overthinking, and stop ignoring what’s right in front of you.”

Let that sink in. What would your life look like if you stopped twisting yourself into knots, trying to make sense of behavior that already makes perfect sense? What if you simply accepted people for who they show you they are—no more, no less?

This doesn’t mean you have to cut people off or become bitter. It means freeing yourself from the emotional burden of trying to change or explain someone’s actions. It means focusing on your peace, alignment, and contentment.

For me, clarity was the moment I stopped seeking love and validation outside of myself. I came home to who I truly am—no longer desperate to please, no longer willing to accept less than I deserve. And it’s a process I continue to nurture every day.

I know I’m not alone in this struggle. So many of us, especially women, have been conditioned to smooth things over, to make excuses, and to carry the emotional weight of other people’s actions. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

That’s why I created my signature coaching program, The Conscious Rebirth: Break the Cycle, Rewrite Your Story.

This program is designed to help you come home to yourself, to break free from the patterns that keep you stuck, and to rewrite your story with confidence and clarity.

What’s one behavior you’ve struggled to accept at face value? And how would your life change if you saw it for what it truly is?

Leave a comment, or better yet, join me in this transformative program. Let 2025 be the year you come home to yourself.

With love and hope,

Lydia